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What is a Father?

As you read and study what has bee written here, do not just blindly accept it.  Please check the Scriptures and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you His truth.  The Scriptures quoted are from the King James version with the words of Jesus in red.

FATHERS & SONS

For most of us the concept and image we have of the Heavenly Father is how we have viewed our own natural father. In too many instances that image is very much different from how Scripture describes our Father God. Even when we are well grounded in the Scripture, we still are biased by the image of our natural father. The best fathers still have traits of the sinful, ungodly, and unredeemed man yet working in them. For those who knew fathers that were unkind and abusive or were "non-existent" in their lives it becomes an even greater task to view the Heavenly Father as He should be known.

Sometimes we might be able to relate to Jesus because we have known, or know of, natural brothers who present favorable impressions upon us. Father God and the Holy Spirit, however, cannot not be seen and our experience with a natural father makes it difficult to comprehend just how much love He has for us.

We learn how to be parents from our parents and they are good teachers, or rather, we are good students. We learn well the things they teach us mostly through their actions rather than the words they say to us. Sometimes what they teach is good, but all too often the example they set for us is a very poor one. If our experiences are unpleasant, we often try to avoid that same type of behavior in ourselves. Generally, however, we tend to fail with our actions as parents being much the same as those of our parents. Whether we like it or not we are products of our environment to a great degree.

Many children today are being raised by only one parent which is often the mother. This situation usually leaves no male as a role model for the child. In many cases the father is not there because of divorce and the mother may be bitter over the situation. That bitterness may unconsciously be transmitted to the child by the mother.

Children are quick to learn, especially those things they shouldn’t. When they see the unhappy conditions which ultimately may bring about a divorce they quickly learn to be defensive, resentful and/or hateful.

The world’s idea of the "Macho Man" is unfortunately demonstrated as the perfect father image, even among the church. That image has no room for compassion, empathy, mercy, or tenderness as the Heavenly Father is shown to be in Scripture.

My own father was always there physically. He provided the necessary food, lodging, discipline, and also a degree of instruction. Most of the time, however, he was so engrossed in earning a living wage to support his family that I can’t recall him ever holding or hugging me. In fact, I am not able to remember him exhibiting any real degree of emotion ever. Probably the most valuable lesson he taught me by his example was one of consistency. His manner was always predictable and you could always believe he would do what he promised. His dispensing of discipline was always in line with the rules he had previously set forth. I am very thankful for the influence he had on me but am left with an image of a father who was strict, stern, and just but without compassion.

As my own father was, so also was I. The example he set for me was to a large degree, duplicated by me. When I accepted Jesus as Savior, at the age of 45, He began to soften the sternness I had learned from my own father. It is unfortunate that my son was already 23 years old before this change started. 21 years later, when my son went home to be with the Lord Jesus, God had done much to change me but there was, and still is, a substantial work remaining to be accomplished. I passionately urge you fathers, and fathers-yet-to-be, to immediately start the process of moving from the "Macho Man" to that of the image and likeness of our Heavenly Father. Be diligent in asking for, listening to, and following the Holy Spirit’s direction to you in making this very important change. I also urge you sons to do likewise.

All of us, regardless of the human father we have known whether it be natural or adopted, has difficulty relating to our Heavenly Father. No matter how wonderful our human father was, or is, the greatness of our Heavenly Father is so far beyond our ability to comprehend the extent of it.

We are not given the opportunity to fully understand the Heavenly Father but we can begin to know Him by looking at the characteristics of God the Father and Jesus the Son. We are told we have seen, or known, the Father because we have seen, or known, Jesus.

God is Spirit

God is a Spirit which has no form or physical body and is invisible to our human eyes. Jesus taught that God is Spirit. (John 4:24, 24God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.)

Our God is a triune God consisting of, God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit, or Holy Ghost. Jesus taught this and also Paul in the closing declarations of his letter to the Church at Corinth.

God is Holy and Righteous

His moral character is above all other. When Isaiah, in a vision, saw God sitting on a throne amidst the seraphim he, Isaiah, was struck by God’s Holiness and cried "woe is me for I am undone; because I am a man of unclean lips, and I dwell in the midst of people with unclean lips."

God is Eternal

Genesis 1:1 "states very simply "In the beginning was God..." He existed from the beginning and will continue to the end.

God is Provision

God is Wisdom

Paul, instructing Timothy, about four of the attributes of God said "He is the only wise God."

King Solomon when visited, in a vision, by God who asked "what shall I give thee?" answered that he wanted wisdom to properly rule and judge the people.

God is Mercy

God is the Justifier

God’s grace, through our believing the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, justifies us. We who believe were predestinated to be conformed to the image of Jesus, called, justified and glorified by God.

God is Truth

God is Compassion

God is Love

These Scriptures have described some of the attributes and character of God, both as a Father and as a Son. The examples shown here are only a sampling of the many other Scriptures which define how great and loving our Heavenly Father is. I encourage you to spend the time to search them out for yourself that you also may know more about Him. I also encourage you to spend time in prayer seeking to know Him rather than just knowing about Him.

It is unfortunate we seldom see these attributes of God in many of our own earthly fathers and sons. There are many reasons why this may be so. Probably the top two reasons are the worlds idea of the "Macho Man" and the lack of a good role model present in a persons life. We, for the most part, have done a very poor job of teaching our sons to be loving, caring, compassionate, merciful, just, truthful, wise, Holy and Righteous males who are also good providers for their families. We also, all too often, have not followed the instruction given in Proverbs 22:6 to "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it."

In the 6th chapter of Ephesians and the 3rd chapter of Colossians we are given instruction for both fathers and children which has in too many cases been ignored. Today’s society is rife with cases of youngsters who are disobedient and parents who engage in the abuse of their children. It is regrettable that today little difference can be seen in the behaviors of parents and children between those of the church and of the world on this point. The multitude of counselors, therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, and pastors available to the church family has not been able to overcome this problem. Perhaps this is because the lack of proper teaching on "becoming a good father" by our own fathers and also the modeling of a "father image" by our school teachers, neighbors, and pastors has been so neglected.

Where do we begin, and how do we go about, getting the vision of what a father is from God’s perspective? Our first effort should be to ask God in prayer to reveal, Himself as the Heavenly Father, to us. Along with this we need to develop a relationship with Jesus where throughout each day we commune with Him. This combined with a study of the Scriptures will allow the Holy Spirit to show us a model or pattern to follow. As we then begin to practice these Scriptural patterns shown us, we can model them for others to see and follow. One of the many precepts we will be shown is that which John wrote in describing the revelation of Jesus Christ given him on the isle of Patmos which is that we are "priests unto God." Our priestly duty begins at home with our family. As we take on our "priestly duty" at home we will then begin to demonstrate for our children an image more in line with our Heavenly Father’s likeness.